Stop Asking What’s Safe and Start Asking What’s True

For years, I did what I thought I was supposed to do.

I followed the path that looked responsible, that felt predictable. I worked hard, made sacrifices, played by the rules. I showed up for my job, my family, everyone and every time life presented me with an obstacle, I asked myself the same question:

“What’s the safest choice?”

It was the kind of question that helped me survive, and didn’t allow to identify who I really am. I always asked myself, did God really place me on this earth to work hard, barely being able to spend time with the ones I love, and if I work hard enough for 365 days maybe, I will be able to take a 14 days’ vacation somewhere and still be worried about the upcoming routine cycle once the vacation is over?

Have you ever asked yourself:

“Is this really what I want, or is this just what I’ve settled for?”

“Am I living, or am I just on autopilot on my daily routines?”

I was sticking to routines where it didn’t bring me any future purpose, because in my mind the safety meant success and stability meant comfort. But deep down, I knew something was missing. I ignored it for a long time. Until one day, my husband gave me a shirt for Christmas in 2019. A simple black T-shirt with a white print that says “Unemployed CEO”. Something in me sparked that day. I knew that God used my husband to say thought that gift, “Now is the time. You’re ready for your vivid transformation.” On that same day, I promised myself I would keep the shirt in my closet and only wear it for the first time, once I became truly free and didn’t have to depend on a W2 to provide for my family and myself. 

The new steps came with unpredicted obstacles and self-reflection of my routines and habits. I have to say the word and action of "comfort" was eliminated from my daily living and overall vocabulary.

Avoiding discomfort? Have you paused to ask:

“What would I do if I wasn’t afraid?”

“Who could I become if I stopped holding back?”

Those questions became the new compass for my life.

I began walking away from what was no longer aligned, even when it scared me. I took chances I wouldn’t have before. I explored new dreams. I started listening, not to the noise of the world, but to the voice I had buried inside and avoided things and actions that could hold me back from my future goals. 

Now, when life throws me uncertainty, I no longer ask,

“What’s the safest option?”

I ask,

“What’s the most honest one?”

“What decision honors who I truly am?”

Because I’ve learned that safety can keep you stuck, but truth, even when it’s uncomfortable is the key guide to being free.

I hope sharing a bit of my journey on this blog offers you something, perhaps clarity, courage, or simply a reminder that transformation is possible, even when it feels impossible.

When I slipped that shirt over my head for the first time, it wasn’t just fabric. It was fulfillment. It was closure and the beginning of the life I’d fought to reclaim.